Someone approached me recently about the Rough House play parties and what they are about. I’m always happy to explain to someone what they’re about, what they can expect, etc…
When he realized I was a collared submissive, he thought he should stop talking to me to which I responded, “No, Sir allows and encourages me to talk to anyone.”, and then I further explained Sir’s protocols for communication and play.
This was actually someone who is, at this point, primarily bottom and possibly submissive – something he’s looking to explore. In his own words, he learned a lot from me in our brief discussion.
It makes me wonder, how many times this may actually come up – the fact that someone might wish to talk to me, learn a bit about D/s, but might not understand some of the protocols of the collar I wear.
To clarify, Sir allows me:
- to talk to anyone – dominant or submissive, top or bottom, etc…,
- to engage in vanilla play without permission,
- as soon as play involves BDSM or D/s and as a bottom, i am instructed to conduct initial negotiations, find out what W/we both want to get into, and then i must contact Sir to get permission:
- If Sir is not available. then he allows me to use my best judgement and provide him with an update,
- Sir may require a discussion with the dominant depending on what is involved in the scene,
- Sir may also grant permission right away
- play that involves D/s, with me as a top but still submitting is a grey area. i usually contact Sir anyway to let Him know what is going on. After all, it’s still a case where i’m still submissive. I just happen to be topping – and believe me I have been involved in some hot scenes where I’ve remained as a submissive top.
- Sir encourages all of His subs to get experiences with others.
So why chat with Sir? Here are a few considerations:
- Sir does not want his training with me to be interfered with,
- there may be considerations about play with me, for example how to better read me in certain situations
- as I see it, you get to connect with a knowledgable dominant,
- both you and Sir get to connect with each other, even if briefly,
- between the two of you, there may be some inspiration built,
It’s a shame that many, maybe 60% of those who are interested in playing with me are not willing to having the chat with Sir, and their loss in 100% of those cases. They’re going to miss a potentially hot time because usually by the time we’ve chatted about what we want in the scene, I’m ready to serve and drop into subspace – because I am serious about playing. I can’t risk the scene, and Sir is not willing to risk damage to His boy.
So that, said,
- please feel free to engage me in conversation.
- if you have any questions, please do feel free to contact me
- if you have an interest in using me as a demo bottom or in playing with me as a dominant – top or bottom, please do feel free to contact Sir or me.
This is all in line with Master Chuck’s will.