Last weekend I ended up going to The Eagle here in Toronto and was hoping to hook up with someone I’ve not had a chance to see nor play with for about two years.  Unfortunately car troubles made me about 45 minutes late and despite my efforts to communicate and provide updates, I ended up missing my chance.  His loss.

And my gain in some respects – I ended up seeing someone that I have wanted to hook up with for several years now, and he totally turns my crank.  Masculine, a big Bear of a man, loves his gear,  and hits on several other turn ons that, for whatever reason, work for me.

It was rubber night, and this man I would not only call a Leatherman but he identifies as a Rubberman and after seeing his toys and what he likes in gear, I would definitely say he’s a Rubberman.  A classic man of kink, if you will.

Sadly, despite the fact he had rubber boots on, and a very nice set of thick industrial rubber gloves on, he was denied from entering into the are closed off for rubber.

I totally get and I understand that during a Leather or Rubber night, organizers are trying to make a specific space and atmosphere.  I totally get it.

But honestly, I’m kind of tired of stand-and-model at the bar.  I’d love to see more play going on of some sort, and while I’m not advocating for a more lenient open space in this case, somehow I’d like to see how we can look at those in the community who are going to add something to the space rather than take away from it and invite them in.  In this case, I feel the Daddy i was with would have totally added to the space – just as we did in the backroom when I was licking his hot and tasty rubber boots.

I do question, what can we do to open the space up to the right people who are going to add to it, rather than just creating a space for a fashion show?  Don’t get me wrong, I think a man dressed in full leather or rubber is hot.  Maybe we’re just seeing a but too much of it at our events?

I know I was guilty the other weekend at Rough House.  It’s been ages since I have been able to get in my full leathers – chaps, harness, vest, Jobmasters – I realized it was actually too much and ended up stripping down.

Looking at old copies of Drummer, a lot of the men I’m seeing in those magazines are wearing denim jeans, some chaps, t-shirts or flannel shirts, a leather vest; or shirtless with a harness, maybe a Muir Cap… You don’t see the fully decked out leather trousers and men dressed to the nines as you see today.

This mimicked what I grew up with as I was coming out in Ottawa and Toronto.

I think back to how Master Chuck and I have played in our past and still do play – a simple vest and boots is all we really need – if that.  Looking at the man I hooked up with on the weekend, and others that I get super turned on by – sometimes being simpler can be more effective.

Some of the more rubber oriented scenes I’ve been part of – while some have been more what I would call more fetish-rubber based, the hotter scenes have been much more gear-based.

I think one part of the answer may be to have a Work Gear night at the Eagle.  This can cover so things – Leather (brown and black), work gear (Carhartts – YUM!), work boots (brown and black), denim… It’s definitely something to consider.

Now I’m hard thinking about brown construction boots and thick industrial rubber gloves that make me cum hard and quick.  Time to find my tit clamps… *GRIN*