From November 2021, originally published on FetLife

I just finished re-reading The Ethical Slut. Given the new relationships and relationship changes that I’ve been through in the past year, it was a much needed read.

A few things things I got out of the book was

• reframing the fear of losing with the joy of abundance,
• that intimacy and connection are very much what we make of it,
• and realizing that jealousy and envy as a symptom of something much deeper that should be reflected on and something to be healed.

Some of this I’ve known for a long time, but sometimes re-reading and being open to re-learning takes things to a deeper level.

“Do your best to fall in like” – I love this from the book and this particular section. I’ve learned HUGE lessons in the past year about this, and with allowing myself to self-reflect and bring my walls down, I’ve been able to create much deeper connections than I ever imagined.

I highly recommend reading this book, reading it a few times, especially when you’re navigating new and old relationships.