Continuing on my series I committed to promoting kink and spurring discussion, this one is on rubber.  

This weekend was going to be my first ever big rubber weekend in Manchester; alas here we are.  So I’m making my own rubber weekend.

I got into rubber courtesy of seeing a rather hot Bear, Phil (RIP), serving drinks at The Toolbox, in Toronto for a Southern Ontario Bears night in May 1997 – my first time there.  I was hooked, seeing the smooth roundness of a Bear belly, fur poking out… Oh yeah.  I would often wear singlets (tank tops/vests) and shorts but more recently finally picked up trousers, polo shirts and a full cat suit.

Bears were made for rubber.  I can point out a number of hot Bears I know who are into rubber of all shapes and sizes.  I also enjoy getting guys dressed up in rubber seeing the lightbulb go – so much fun!  Of course you can!

So beyond hot Bears in rubber, what is it about rubber that I like?  

• There’s a scent aspect which comes into play and I do have scent triggers in a very good way when it comes to play.  Some friends of mine say I smell like a balloon after. LOL
• For someone who lives with body dysmorphia, and I’ve had a tough few weeks with it, you would think that tight clothing that hugs you would trigger that deeper, but for me it does quite the opposite.  It feels really good.  I’ve been thinking that I need to give permission to my boy and pup that so they can freely tell me to put on rubber when I’m having a bit of a down day about my body image.
• There’s something freeing about wearing something so thin, and feeling the temperature changes as you walk.
• The sweat layer that builds is kind of awesome, especially if you’re into sweat while playing
• You can get downright wet and nasty in it, and it cleans up nicely.  

The one misconception about rubber is that it pulls fur.  Well yes, it can pull fur but that’s why you use lube or powder to put your rubber on!  You’d be surprised that it doesn’t hurt to put on or take off!

Rubber is not as easily accessible here in Canada as it is in Europe, though there are companies who do make rubber clothing and play equipment – Polymorphe (Montreal) and Kink Engineering (Toronto) come to mind, Northbound Leather resells Polymorphe but it’s not always cared for and their selection is very limited, so YMMV.  It can be expensive over here.

My trips to Europe in 2017 and the past year had me checking out  Black Body (NL), Regulation (UK), Invincible Rubber (UK), Rubber Pigs (UK), and Fetishak (CZ).  I’m always a kid in a candy store in rubber shops.  Visiting Black Body in 2017 for the first time lead to me jumping and squeeing.

For me, playing in rubber has a fair bit to do with sensation and in many respects sensuality – try taking some ice and trace it around, or feel the warmth of being pissed on.  There’s definitely a look aspect – whether dressed in a singlet/vest, shorts, adding gloves, wearing a full catsuit or head to toe, waders, wells, or lace up rubber boots; add in a gas mask and there’s a whole new level of fun added between smoke play, feeding someone poppers or breath play; with zips in the right places for those who like fucking or eating musky sweaty ass; or put someone in a rubber vac bed binding them down; and if you’re into more hard core action find a rubber gimp to use… you get the idea.  Rubber is pretty versatile.

Some people can be allergic to rubber, such as one of my husband’s former pups so be sure to ask if you’re about to do a scene or if you’re new, you might want to test rubber on your skin,

Rubber is more resilient than you may think, but at the same time you have to take care of it.  I was mortified to see I had ripped my catsuit from Invincible  after one wearing – my own fault on that one; and I’ve had vests split on a glue seam.  

Be careful with wearing rubber and playing with lubes such as J-Lube and Crisco while, say, in a fisting scene.  There are alternatives lubes you can use such as X-Lube.  

What about dehydration due to sweat?  It is a factor for sure, and I’m guilty about not drinking water after playing in rubber.  Taking off my skins rubber trousers was an eye opener in Berlin at Folsom Europe, with the amount of sweat that poured out!  Definitely make sure you’re hydrating yourself!  Lesson learned!

Store it away from being in direct sunlight, wash it after wearing – you can use a mild dish detergent, put talc on your rubber, fold and store it in a ziplock bag.  Be sure to wash it thoroughly of talc when ready to wear your rubber.  If you want to shine your rubber you can with Vivishine, however if you’re expecting a sub to lick your rubber in a scene (hot and sensual!!) they may not want the taste of silicone in their mouth.  

So, am I a Rubberman or a Leatherman?  I am both. Leather very much taught me how to hold myself as a man and also the heavier aspects of how I play – that’s just the context I have for Leather and your’s may be very different.  Rubber adds to that in a playful way for me.  There are things I can do in rubber that I just can’t or won’t do in my Leathers and I’ve had a lot of fun exploring play in rubber.

When faced with a decision between putting on leather or rubber – I would probably gravitate more to my rubbers.  Although, combining rubber and leather can be fun, as I have always done.

I definitely recommend, if you’ve wanted to explore wearing rubber, do!  If any of you have pictures of yourselves in rubber, post them below!

“Now I’m hard thinking about brown construction boots and thick industrial rubber gloves that make me cum hard and quick.  Time to find my tit clamps… *GRIN*” – Your’s truly – October 28, 2012

I recently joined a Kinky Bears group on Facebook. As Bears, I think those of us into rubber and leather need to build a much closer knit community. I don’t know about your community, but I know here in Toronto the kinky Bears are far and few between, or keep to themselves. It’s really fucking hard to draw them out to events. Then again, in the days of COVID-19, there are no events.

So I have decided to contribute articles each week to the group.

Upon joining I used an old picture of me holding a piece of (bunny) rabbit fur which I have been known to use in scene and is one of the things that Sir did to me. Here’s the article I wrote about why I choose that picture:

I’m considering writing up something once or twice a week to spur kinky ideas in all of us.  *GRIN*

So why rabbit fur?  Well firstly, it’s a pervertable and one of the first prevertables I was introduced to.  Anyone who knows my Sir knows that it’s a very Sir thing.

Not all BDSM and kink has to hurt right?  It can be about sensation and sensory play and that’s where rabbit fur comes into play.

Tie someone up, blindfold them and start doing sensory play on them can bring up some really nice reactions – something I love as a top/dom is pulling out reactions from the bottom/sub.

Believe me – some of the hottest scenes I’ve done have involved lighter touch rather than going in hard.  One is not necessarily better than the other, again, for me, it’s about seeing the reaction from the bottom.

Anyone that knows me knows my nuts are sensitive.  I often say that I used to come with a manual that said, “Don’t touch my nuts” but over time Sir helped to desensitise them enough so that he could do CBT on them.

Now I’m going to use a word that most Bearish guys fear – shaving!  My Sir has me regularly shave my nuts.  Now the interesting thing is, that in and of itself gives a really neat sensation.  With fur and without is quite different.

Shave you nuts, get tied down, and rub rabbit fur, or any fur, on them and for someone like me, it can be quite something.