About boyiain

A switch from the Toronto area, owned by and under the firm guidance of Master Chuck from Sudbury.

Catching up with…

The past few weeks have been a whirlwind of activity traveling to Detroit, MI twice for Michigan LeatherSIR/Leatherboy and LeatherUNITED; Erie, PA for Drenched Fur and April is not even over.

From April 21 through May 1st

  • I’ll be visiting Sudbury to spend some quality with Sir – it’s been too long since I’ve had a chance to go up to Sudbury and I’ve been fortunate that Sir has been able to take the time to come to Toronto over the past few months.
  • My first trip to Portland OR/Vancouver WA for work on April 24 through 28th.  I’m not sure how much time I’ll have to get out and about around Portland and Vancouver, but if anyone has any suggestions on where to go, I’m all ears.
  • Returning from Portland, I get to meet Sir in Toronto and head to Cleveland for my first trip to CLAW.  This is Sir’s second trip to CLAWand slave David will be joining us.  Anyone who attended CLAW last year will recognize slave David an impromptu fundraiser there.

boys iain (Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011) and matt (North American Boot Black 2008 and former boy to Iain) at LeatherUNITED.

May will be a slower month.  I will probably be in Portland/Vancouver for a second trip, and there may be chances I’ll be doing a pitstop in San Francisco for a conference (to be determined).

I have two fundraisers coming up – more details to follow:

  • May 7th – Kink In The City: An Evening of Fetish Art Spontaneity at the Black Eagle co-hosted with Mr. Spearhead 2011 Dwayne Bryk for the Toronto People with AIDS Foundation. More details to come. *GRIN*
  • May 13th – (That’s a Friday!!) I’ll be doing my something for the Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy Travel Fund during Cigar Night.  Come on out for a few cigars or pipes on the Black Eagle patio.  More details to come…

MLT – Toronto Leather Pride – Call for Presenters – August 11-14, 2011

As received from Dan from So You Want To Be Kinky:

The MLT Competition Weekend has become one the largest city leather title event in North America.  Following the tremendous success of last year’s Weekend Seminar Program, the “So You Want To Be Kinky???” Educational Group is now seeking qualified individuals interested in presenting workshops, demonstrations, and discussions during the MLT 2012 contest weekend. However, it is important to note that the entire weekend timing is changing as of this year (hence this “earlier than usual” call for presenters). This year, the weekend will be held August 11-14, 2011 workshops will be held on August 13th and 14th. As well, the weekend is now called “Toronto Leather Pride”.

The “So You Want To Be Kinky???” Educational Group is planning a total of 8 to 12 seminars for that weekend. Each seminar must be 60 to 105 minutes in length. Anyone interested in presenting a seminar this year must submit a completed Seminar Proposal Form (available online at http://2bkinky.com/2bkinkycom/html/presentersform ) by no later than June 1st, 2011. A maximum of 12 proposals will be selected from all those received by the deadline. Should you need to contact us to get more information, please do so at info@2bkinky.com. You will also find additional information on our various seminars at www.2bkinky.com).

We are looking forward to receiving your proposals.

See you in August!!

Northern Exposure 2011

Brought to you by the Sudbury Northern Ontario Bears (SNOBears)

  • August 18-25, 2011
  • Week-long and Weekend options
  • 1 hour north of Sudbury, 5 hours north of Toronto
  • Clothing optional, Leather and BDSM friendly
  • Out in the wilderness, secluded
  • Food and beverages included
  • Cabin or tent – you choose!
  • Private swimming area
  • Cabin 4 play area
  • Check out the Mr. Northern Ontario Bear contest – sure to be a fun and hilarious time.
  • $125 for the weekend (August 19 -21) – $140 after July 1st.
  • $290 for the full week (August 18-25) – $325 after July 1st.
  • Advance reservation: $50 downpayment reserves your post.

I attended the first version of this event, last year, and had a great time.  Lots of fun to be had in the great outdoors of Northern Ontario, with a full Leather/BDSM play cabin available for use.

Northern Exposure 2011

 

boy iain’s guide to uncut cock

I had the pleasure of being at Drenched Fur this weekend.  It’s a fun small Bear Run in Erie, PA; that centers around a bunch of hot naked hairy fuckers taking over an indoor water park and a hotel.

Okay, so definitely different from a Leather event, but I do like corrupting some of the more vanilla-oriented Bears out there, my confidence in sexuality actually does get some guys to think (and they do ask questions), and there are a number of kinky Bears who do attend these events – so it’s all good.  And I have fun with guys who have the secondary sexual characteristics that I usually looking for – facial hair, body fur and some bulk.

The first thing I have to say, is what’s a boy to do when all I want to do is suck cock but everyone wants to suck your’s because you’re one of the few uncut guys at an event?  Okay, okay – surely not complain and I’m not going to complain about that.   LOL!

I’ve been wanting to write a small guide on what to do with an uncut cock and this weekend pushed me over the edge.  Not a lot of guys know what to do with an uncut cock in the US – and no wonder given the circumcision practices in the US and Western Canada.

For the record, in Canada, the further east you go the more likely you’ll find uncut cock typically from Ontario, eastward.  Though practices are changing and circumcision is being seen as an unnecessary practice.  For example, in Ontario, you have to pay for it unless it’s medically necessary – i.e. your going to need a Penectomy.

I’m so glad I’m from the province of Newfoundland & Labrador. *GRIN*  You know, they should add that to their tourism campaign, but I digress.

Let me help you with your question of what to do with an uncut cock.  However, I need to put a disclaimer out there – this is not a definitive guide to uncut cock, but feel free to add comments if you have any additions or questions.

Obviously, different strokes for different blokes, but a few of these techniques can help set you up nicely for a hot time otherwise you risk Mr. Happy becoming Mr. Floppy.  And if you’re with a Sir who wants to get off, you definitely want to keep Mr. Happy, happy.

And thus, we begin my guide to uncut cock.

  • Remember, on an uncut guy, expect the head to be much more sensitive.  It likely spends most of the day hidden behind the foreskin in a nice moist environment.
  • Related to the above, if this is your first time playing with someone uncut that you don’t know – don’t rush by yanking the foreskin back and jacking off furiously or trying to suck the cock with the skin back.  While some guys really like this, for other guys it’s a complete turn off.  Take your time, get to know the guy’s cock in your mouth or in your hand, test things out and then go for it.
  • Of course, if you know the guy you’re playing with then have at it!
  • Some guys have a tight foreskin and it can hurt when the foreskin is yanked back.  It’s not so much the cock itself but the stretching of the foreskin.
  • Don’t forget the foreskin itself has some great nerve endings so licking, nibbling or playing with a foreskin can just be as much a turn on as going direct for the head.  And if you’re particularly sadistic, small clothes pegs can be placed on it.
  • Putting your tongue down a foreskin and playing with the head of the cock can be just as much a turn on as playing with the head alone.
  • Getting blown with a foreskin up can, in some cases, be more pleasurable than all the way back.  Your mileage may vary.
  • One technique I like to use, once I’ve established that the guy I’m blowing likes to be sucked with the skin back is to hold his foreskin between the tongue and the roof of the mouth, and as I go down – pull the skin back to jerk him off not only with my mouth but also his foreskin.
  • Some guys also like a tongue flicking against the frenulum – that piece of skin on the underside of the cock that attaches to the foreskin.
  • If you get a chance, and this goes for cut guys too, watch how a guy jacks off and by mimicking what he does, that’s one way you’ll score points and you may even take his pleasure to the next level.

There’s a running joke that I used to come with a manual with regards to my nuts that used to be a single page that said, “Don’t touch my nuts”.  Obviously that’s changed in the seven years I’ve been in service to Master Chuck and I proudly flag teal – the hanky colour for CBT.

There is, though, still a manual with regards to my own cock and foreskin.  The sensitivity has been worked on over time, but it’s one of those things that’s taking a long time to overcome.  So here are some interesting tips and info about my own cock:

  • I am one of those boys with a tight foreskin.  It’s always been that way and I don’t blame a medical condition or anything like that – it’s just the way I’m built.  I believe this is different from phimosis which the foreskin gets tighter and tighter – which circumcision is recommended.  My skin is not getting tighter as time goes on.
  • I did explore getting cut – either a dorsal slit or having the skin completely removed, in 1996, and the doctor asked me, “Does it work?”, to which my reply was, “Yes” – “Then don’t do anything”.
  • My foreskin does retract fully when I’m soft so I can keep it clean.
  • Until I was 21, I used to jack of using a double fisted method – I’d have to show you to really explain it.  Made for less mess and I could catch the cum in my foreskin (some guys do find this hot).  This was long before I learned the joy of rubbing the cum into my chest and belly.
  • It wasn’t until my first boyfriend said, why don’t you jack off with one hand, and I did one night while living in residence, while studying in England and it was one of the most mind blowing jack off sessions I ever had.   I haven’t gone back ever since and now it’s really weird to jack off the way I used to.
  • At that time my foreskin was VERY sensitive because I never played with it so it was around that time I got used to just playing with my foreskin.
  • So for 11 years of jacking off, my head never saw the light of day  until sometime in my 20s.
  • I HATE it when a guy yanks back the foreskin on my cock as the first thing he does in play, assuming it goes all the way back, while jacking me off or blowing me.  It hurts and in a way that will see me go soft very quickly.
  • I don’t mind if a guy lightly pulls the skin back while jacking me off – that’s hot.
  • Orally, I don’t mind a guy lightly pulls the skin back.  Just don’t concentrate on that for too long because I will go soft – again it’s not very pleasurable for me (unless that’s the point).
  • Don’t assume that the head has to be showing for pleasure.  I get WAY more pleasure with the skin up.
  • Interestingly, I have no problem with a guy putting his tongue or finger down my foreskin and playing that way.  I figure at some point there may have been some trauma as a kid that has associated exposing my head with discomfort.  I have no idea what that was.
  • When jacking off, I actually have no issue pulling the skin back – that’s how I’ve been known to hit walls, Sir in the chest (especially when gagging on His cock), myself in the beard and mouth, etc…
  • When I pump, something I’ve done on occasion and getting more of an interest in, my skin does retract fully though it is quite uncomfortable.  I am using this as a way to stretch my foreskin – and there are other ways that the skin can be stretched.  I even know of cut guys who re-grew their own foreskin, so stretching is possible.
  • I used to be squicked by sounding long before I tried it, but after my first time, the sensitivity I do experience on the outside of my cock is not the same sensitivity I experience inside my cock with a sound.
  • When fucking (with a condom) I actually have no issue with the foreskin retracting either while putting the condom on or when it naturally gets pulled back during the fucking motion.  Yeah sometimes I feel the skin pulling and it hurting, but it can add to the sensation.
  • I love giving guys their first time with uncut cock.

So there you have it.  My recommendation is to start out slower, learn what turns your partner on and then have at it.  And of course if you’re as sadist or masochist, what does it matter? *GRIN*

I hope this helps – if you have any additional comments, please feel free to register and leave comments.

The title does not make a boy

I was talking recently to a new boy in our greater community who has asked me to be a mentor of his. I’m honoured that he would ask me to be one of many people who will be his guide in his life time. I take this seriously, having been someone who needed that in my own lifetime.

He said to me that if he won a title, that he would be so happy, etc…

When you’re first starting out in Leather, there’s a LOT to learn about yourself and much of it can be pretty damned hard work – whether you’re getting into a D/s relationship and learning the dynamic between your Dominant and yourself, or simply learning about aspects of play that you’ve longed after for years and finding that opening those closet doors of your deepest desires very difficult.

Throw in a title and you learn even MORE about yourself and those around you.  It can be overwhelming.

A title is not something that should be used to validate yourself.  Being Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011, does not validate who I am as a boy – among other boxes that I fit in to.  I was already a boy in our community doing what I do.  While it identifies me, it’s not my identity because there is considerably more to me as a multidimensional person.  I will admit it does stroke my ego, and it feels good to be recognized this way, but I see it as really decadent icing on the cake.

The way I look at being a titleholder in the ILSb circuit is that I am here as a representative of a region of our community with a willingness to:

  • share my insights and experiences with others,
  • participate in community building such as contributing to events happening in the community with Sir and others in the community,
  • and promote and participate in some hot public play.

My recommendation for anyone considering running for a title, be it one of your local city titles, LeatherSIR/Leatherboy, MAL, IML, ILSb; truly get an understanding of who you are and what you stand for, for yourself.  It’s easy to get caught up in what we perceive to be the expectations of others if you’re not clear about who you are and what you stand for, and to lose who you are in that.

It took me three years to get prepared for ECLSb to really understand why I wanted this so much and even when I was ready, not surprisingly, there were even more lessons to be learned and there will be more lessons to learn as well.

I’ve repeated this a few times over the years – as a wise Daddy here in Toronto said, “I think we should all stop looking to family (and others) for validation and worth; to do so gives others power better kept.”

Wise words to live by.

Just as Sir Hugh said in a recent, wonderful blog entry, “The mark of a LeatherSIR is not measured by contests or judge’s remarks.”; the same can be said for Leatherboys.

Welcome to your journey, brother.  I’m honoured to be part of it.

ACT – Safer BDSM/Jeux ‘kinky’ plus sécuritaires

Two years ago, The AIDS Commitee of Toronto put together the “safer sex guide you can jack off to” as we like to call it here in Toronto.

BDSM: Safer Kinky Sex guide is a WONDERFUL resource (and hot too) that ACT put together on considerations for practicing safer BDSM.  This is, I believe, the fourth edition of the guide.

As of today, the guide is now available in French!

Check it out:

Ordering from CATIE (Canadian AIDS Treatment Information Exchange):

PDF version (Free!):

 

SEASON FINALE! Last Rough House & Leather Market until September!

ROUGH HOUSE. A perverted afternoon dungeon-social-cum-house-party!

SUNDAY, MARCH 27, 2011
1pm-5pm. Goodhandy’s (120 Church St @ Richmond)

* LEATHER MARKET returns with new merchandise & great deals
* Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011 iain gets a FLOGGING & CBT
* International LeatherSIR 2009 Tony Palazzo walks the dog
* SUSPENSION by IrrationalMachine
* MASTER R
* ELECTRO on a first-timer
* WATERSPORTS service with the mysterious urinal man
* Dungeon Friskiness * Special Surprises
* Cool Music by Dan * Cash Bar

ADMISSION: $10, proceeds to ECLSb travel fund

Watch for additional details about happenings at specific events
at http://www.LeatherSirCanada.com

What’s gone on at past Rough House events?

* Saline * Bondage * CBT * Percussion Play * Pumping * Rope Play * Sounds *
Electro * Fisting * Shopping * Suspension * And the now infamous ‘Ass
Plinko’

Check out past Rough House pix at these links:

Hope to see you there!

Last Rough House until September – Leather & Gear Sale ~ Sun Mar 27

SEASON FINALE!
Last Rough House & Leather Market until September

ECLSb IS GEARING UP FOR A LEATHER SALE!
Cool gear. Great prices. Donations gratefully accepted!

Get a head start on spring cleaning the dungeon! Cull your toy box and old
gear/clothes tucked in the back of your closet…

In with your new gear and toys! Out with the old!

LEATHER & GEAR SALE @ ROUGH HOUSE
Sunday, March 27
1pm-5pm.
Goodhandy’s (120 Church St at Richmond)
Admission: $10
More info: www.LeatherSirCanada.com

ALL PROCEEDS BENEFIT THE 2011 ECLSb TRAVEL FUND.

DONATIONS APPRECIATED! Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy is gratefully
accepting donations of all types of leather/gear/fetish wear and toys (new & used)
for the ECLSB Leather & Gear Sale. No items are too big or too small!

For more information or to arrange a donation drop-off or pick-up, please email Brandon at Brandon@LeatherSirCanada.com

PLEASE, CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET & DUNGEON!
Lots of young bargain hunters new to the scene depend on the kindness of strangers!