Sunday, July 17th, 2011 – “Now That You’re Kinky” – A Round Table With Doms & subs

Master Chuck, my partner Master Scott, slave-pup Kalen and i will be part of a round table on Doms and subs during the July 17th “Now That You’re Kinky” series held here in Toronto as part of the So You Want To Be Kinky Education Series here in Toronto.

July 17th – 2pm – Doors open at 1:30pm

Goodhandy’s
120 Church Street (2nd floor)
SW corner of Church & Richmond Streets
Toronto, ON

Admission $10.00 at the door
Restricted to those 19 years of age and older

For more information please see 2bkinky.com.


As part of our ongoing 201 level workshop series, on July 17th, 2011,  SYWTBK will present “A Round Table With Doms & subs” (doors at 130pm, seating is limited). We have gathered 5 fairly well known Doms (Tops/Masterss/Sirs/etc…) and 5 subs (slaves/boys/bottoms/etc…) to discuss their journey, life, and love of the BDSM lifestyle. We invite those in attendance to challenge our panel and ask the questions that have gone unanswered up until now. (This workshop will be split, with our Doms up first, followed by a short break, then our subs.) or (This workshop will be one panel, and will be in one continuous forum for your convenience.) Come prepared, do your homework, research any or all of the names below and have your specific questions ready. Our panel will include:

The Dominants

Master Chuck
Once a boy, Master Chuck at 50 now lives his life, 24/7, as the patriarch of his very large multi generational Leather Family that combines HOT play, daily life and growth. There is never a dull moment. As a covered Master he holds himself to a high standard of integrity, manifesting itself in the basic traditional Old Guard principles of Honour, Trust, and Respect. To him, submission is a precious gift that Doms should accept with humility, then use BDSM as a tool to reach the subs inner core as they embrace their submission. He gives back to and helps develops his community through high level activism and with the educational seminars he delivers. Master Chuck is proud to represent his community as Eastern Canada LeatherSIR 2011

Master Peter
After growing up on a working ranch in Southern Alberta, Peter simply changed one kind of chaps for another. After realizing he was not only gay but into Leather in the early 1980s, Peter began to discover the community of Leather Folk. After moving to Toronto, Ontario in 1994, Peter found a welcoming and accepting community. He joined the Board of Directors of Mr. Leatherman Toronto Competition Inc. (MLTC) in 2000 and served on the Board until the end of 2007. In 2001, Peter was made the Chief Judge of MLTC and continues to serve in that position. He is also a member of the So You Want To Be Kinky Committee which puts on the annual seminar program during the MLT weekend along with the “So You Want to Be Kinky” education program which stages seminars on a quarterly basis. He has also served as a judge at many local, national and international competitions such as IML 2009. Along the way he also served as Tally Master for ABW for 3 years. In November of 2007, Peter was awarded the MLT John Stephen Basset Leather Pride Award for his contributions to the development of Leather Pride. He has been in a Master/Slave relationship for nearly 13 years with his slave cub. Cub was also Bootblack Toronto 2005. Believing in the traditional values of the Leather Community, Peter believes very strongly in giving back to the community more than the community has given him.

Master Scott
Master Scott is a gay male “Bear”, dominant switch, and has been doing BDSM play for more than 20 years. He is a proud member of the Leather Family headed by Master Chuck. Scott was recently honoured by being presented with his Master’s cover by Master Chuck and His leather family. He is honoured to be pinned into Mama’s Family as “Mama’s Canadian Body Bear”. Within the community Scott has been active in teaching others various BDSM related skills, particularly his passion of percussion play (spanking, flogging and caning). Scott has been partnered in an open relationship for almost 14 years to a D/s-switch, Master Chuck’s boy iain – currently Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011. Scott is blessed to have a collared submissive in slave-pup Kalen. Scott also acts as a mentor to a number of other boys, cubs and slaves. Scott is currently in the process of switching careers and is completing studies in a healthcare field.

Master T’Hayla
Master T’Hayla Ferguson has been teaching in Canada and the USA for the last 15 years on a wide range of BDSM and M/s topics, including but not limited to: Master/slave relationships, self esteem, spirituality, cutting, piercing and other nasty sadistic shit your slave will love you for. Mastery is not so much a choice as a calling for T’Hayla – one which fulfills so many deep needs.

Victoria Windsor
Victoria Windsor found the leather community 19 years ago by looking for it. She’s known singe age 8 that she was different. Finding kink opened her eyes, finding Leather opened her world, and she can never go back. Victoria was the recipient of the Central Canada Olympus Leather 2008, the co-Chair of the So You Want To Be Kinky Education Committee, have taught throughout North America, and currently serves as the Executive Producer of Toronto Leather Pride (formerly MLT). She holds dear the close relationships she has made in this group, and loves having a leather heart.

the submissives

boy alex
boy alex is a local bootblack and active member of the queer leather community in Toronto. Soon after finding life in leather, boy alex met some friends who introduced him to D/s and service oriented dynamics. He then attended the boys Training Camp in Dallas Texas and learned more about these concepts and how to apply them. Since then, he has experimented with and been involved in several service based relationships and contracts. boy alex has also taken on various service oriented roles in his community. boy alex has taught workshops and sat on discussion panels about D/s and service at several leather events in the US such as the boys Training Camp, and also South West Leather Conference in Phoenix and South Plains Leatherfest in Dallas.

cub
Originally from Winnipeg, Ron began his leather journey in 1985. He was a long-time member of the Winnipeg Leather Levi Club as well a founding member of C.L.U.B Winnipeg. In February of 1998, he met his future Master, Peter to whom he became a collared as a slave under a lifetime contract and was given the name cub in November of that year he move to Toronto to begin fulltime service and in 2000 cub began volunteering with MLT. In 2003 cub along with several fellow boys formed the Toronto boys of Leather, a group that was intended to provide support for other submissives, and to provide assistance to other groups and organizations in the leather community. cub served as President of TboL until 2007 and remains involved in an advisory role. In 2005, cub won the title of Bootblack Toronto. While competing at the International Mr. Bootblack in Chicago of 2005, cub was humbled to be the first Canadian to receive the Brotherhood award. cub was pinned into Mama’s Family as Mama’s Canadian cub in 2006. In 2007, cub was honoured to receive MLT’s Courtland Forsey Award.

slave gillian
slave gillian is happily submerged in her 24/7 M/s relationship. Living a powerful and fulfilling enslavement has been an exciting and challenging experience. Among many things gillian loves being Master’s majical assistant and demo bottom at workshops. gillian and her Master regularly attend Toronto’s Perspectives on Power group.

Master Chuck’s boy iain
Born in St. John’s, Newfoundland and raised in the Greater Toronto Area, Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011, boy iain has been collared to Master Chuck since 2004. Growing up, he knew he was interested in pig sex, oral service, piss and Bearish men and has since learned to enjoy the pleasure of pain, submission and domination, boot worship, cock and ball torture, tit torture, rubber, mind fucks; and the eroticization of safe sex. In 2009, boy Iain was the recipient of an Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy Community Builder Award in recognition of the impact of his involvement in the Toronto and Eastern Canada Leather community. He promotes play, education and believes that as a community we should be connecting with other people face to face and flesh on flesh.

slave-pup Kalen
Master Scott’s slave-pup Kalen, is a 25 year old, gay submissive. He is a service oriented slave who enjoys domestic chores as well as other service as needed. On the pup side he identifies as a husky pup named Bandit and has a fondness of “borrowing” socks. He has also dicovered a love for bondage and percussion play. slave-pup Kalen was born in Toronto but was raised in Sudbury Ontario, and now currently resides in Brampton. Kalen was collared as Master Scott’s slave-pup in June 2010. Kalen is also proud member of Master C’s leather family of which he is the youngest member.

Goodhandy’s
120 Church Street (2nd floor)
SW corner of Church & Richmond Streets
Toronto, ON

Admission $10.00 at the door
Restricted to those 19 years of age and older

Mr. Leather Pride 2011 – Black Eagle – June 29th, 2011 – 11pm

Join our judges Mr. Black Eagle 2010 Connor, Penny Gyokeres, Master Chuck’s boy iain – Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011, Frank Mancino and Mr. Spearhead 2011 Dwayne Bryk for one of the first events kicking off the Toronto Gay Pride celebrations. We’re looking for contestants for Mr. Leather Pride Black Eagle! Contact Dwayne Bryk or Black Eagle Toronto if you are interested!

The contest is on June 29th, 2011 at 11pm.

Sir’s Collar, Protocols and Misconceptions

Someone approached me recently about the Rough House play parties and what they are about.  I’m always happy to explain to someone what they’re about, what they can expect, etc…

When he realized I was a collared submissive, he thought he should stop talking to me to which I responded, “No, Sir allows and encourages me to talk to anyone.”, and then I further explained Sir’s protocols for communication and play.

This was actually someone who is, at this point, primarily bottom and possibly submissive – something he’s looking to explore.  In his own words, he learned a lot from me in our brief discussion.

It makes me wonder, how many times this may actually come up – the fact that someone might wish to talk to me, learn a bit about D/s, but might not understand some of the protocols of the collar I wear.

To clarify, Sir allows me:

  • to talk to anyone – dominant or submissive, top or bottom, etc…,
  • to engage in vanilla play without permission,
  • as soon as play involves BDSM or D/s and as a bottom, i am instructed to conduct initial negotiations, find out what W/we both want to get into, and then i must contact Sir to get permission:
    • If Sir is not available. then he allows me to use my best judgement and provide him with an update,
    • Sir may require a discussion with the dominant depending on what is involved in the scene,
    • Sir may also grant permission right away
  • play that involves D/s, with me as a top but still submitting is a grey area.  i usually contact Sir anyway to let Him know what is going on.  After all, it’s still a case where i’m still submissive.  I just happen to be topping – and believe me I have been involved in some hot scenes where I’ve remained as a submissive top.
  • Sir encourages all of His subs to get experiences with others.

So why chat with Sir?  Here are a few considerations:

  • Sir does not want his training with me to be interfered with,
  • there may be considerations about play with me, for example how to better read me in certain situations
  • as I see it, you get to connect with a knowledgable dominant,
  • both you and Sir get to connect with each other, even if briefly,
  • between the two of you, there may be some inspiration built,

It’s a shame that many, maybe 60% of those who are interested in playing with me are not willing to having the chat with Sir, and their loss in 100% of those cases.  They’re going to miss a potentially hot time because usually by the time we’ve chatted about what we want in the scene, I’m ready to serve and drop into subspace – because I am serious about playing.  I can’t risk the scene, and Sir is not willing to risk damage to His boy.

So that, said,

  • please feel free to engage me in conversation.
  • if you have any questions, please do feel free to contact me
  • if you have an interest in using me as a demo bottom or in playing with me as a dominant – top or bottom, please do feel free to contact Sir or me.

This is all in line with Master Chuck’s will.

Good luck!

To all those headed to IML in Chicago this weekend, i wish you the best of luck!

Now, don’t forget about ILSb in San Francisco at the end of!July. *GRIN*

Continental: A documentary

My friend Malcolm Ingram (Small Town Gay Bar, Bear Nation) wants to put together a documentary on The Continental.  He is requesting pledges through Kickstarter – if he reaches his goal, then the documentary is a  go.  If he does not, then not only do you not have to pay your donation, but unfortunately the doco is a no go.

Here is the synopsis of what Malcolm is trying to accomplish:

What do sex without consequence, men in towels and Bette Midler have in common?

The Continental Baths was a seminal gay New York City hotspot that existed from the late sixties to 1974.  The baths themselves were a lavish Roman style affair, which were opened in the late 60’s in a newly post-stonewall NYC. Owner Steve Ostrow wanted to create a decadent and luxurious clubhouse where newly liberated men could explore with wanton abandon.

“A gay man with $15 can get both sex and entertainment at the Continental and know he is mixing with the beautiful people. He might still turn up to work on Monday and be fired for being a fag” – Dennis Altman-1971

Along with the baths, The Continental was home to glamorous shows that attracted first class performers such as Cab Calloway, Peter Allen, Wayland Flowers, Patti Labelle and a then unknown Bette Midler, who (with her piano player Barry Manilow) became ringmaster to the revelry.

Continental is a stylish examination of a lively and lascivious piece of real estate that transcended sexual identity and acted as a beacon to the hip, beautiful and infamous.  Housed at the former site of the legendary Ansonia Hotel at 230 W. 74th St., the Continental ultimately became one of the most important metropolitan keystones for a sexual revolution, fostering an environment of tolerance and indirectly contributing to a level of mainstream gay acceptance the likes of which has never been seen again.

Told through archival footage, photographs, music and the voices of owner Steve Ostrow as well as patrons, performers and opponents,Continental will be a thorough examination of a time and a place not so long ago when the word positive wasn’t so negative.

Directed by Malcolm Ingram (Small Town Gay Bar – Sundance 06, Bear Nation –SXSW 10)

What we are up to:

We are looking to put together enough money to get our project off the ground and go film our initial set of interviews. Most importantly our interview with Steve Ostrow who now lives in Australia. This interview will create the spine for the documentary.

Why ‘Continental’ ?:

Having had the privilege of making a documentary a few years back on the proud owners and patrons of some gay bars in the South called ‘small town gay bar’, I began to realize how important it was to present as many varied voices of my community as possible. Documenting our history while the key players are still around isn’t only an opportunity…it is a duty.

Continental existed in a very unique period, post Stonewall – pre Aids. That little window when gay ruled the zeitgeist and Continental was the clubhouse. Its a story of sex, celebrity, politics and most importantly…it is part of our history

MLT – Toronto Leather Pride – Call for Presenters – August 11-14, 2011

As received from Dan from So You Want To Be Kinky:

The MLT Competition Weekend has become one the largest city leather title event in North America.  Following the tremendous success of last year’s Weekend Seminar Program, the “So You Want To Be Kinky???” Educational Group is now seeking qualified individuals interested in presenting workshops, demonstrations, and discussions during the MLT 2012 contest weekend. However, it is important to note that the entire weekend timing is changing as of this year (hence this “earlier than usual” call for presenters). This year, the weekend will be held August 11-14, 2011 workshops will be held on August 13th and 14th. As well, the weekend is now called “Toronto Leather Pride”.

The “So You Want To Be Kinky???” Educational Group is planning a total of 8 to 12 seminars for that weekend. Each seminar must be 60 to 105 minutes in length. Anyone interested in presenting a seminar this year must submit a completed Seminar Proposal Form (available online at http://2bkinky.com/2bkinkycom/html/presentersform ) by no later than June 1st, 2011. A maximum of 12 proposals will be selected from all those received by the deadline. Should you need to contact us to get more information, please do so at info@2bkinky.com. You will also find additional information on our various seminars at www.2bkinky.com).

We are looking forward to receiving your proposals.

See you in August!!

Northern Exposure 2011

Brought to you by the Sudbury Northern Ontario Bears (SNOBears)

  • August 18-25, 2011
  • Week-long and Weekend options
  • 1 hour north of Sudbury, 5 hours north of Toronto
  • Clothing optional, Leather and BDSM friendly
  • Out in the wilderness, secluded
  • Food and beverages included
  • Cabin or tent – you choose!
  • Private swimming area
  • Cabin 4 play area
  • Check out the Mr. Northern Ontario Bear contest – sure to be a fun and hilarious time.
  • $125 for the weekend (August 19 -21) – $140 after July 1st.
  • $290 for the full week (August 18-25) – $325 after July 1st.
  • Advance reservation: $50 downpayment reserves your post.

I attended the first version of this event, last year, and had a great time.  Lots of fun to be had in the great outdoors of Northern Ontario, with a full Leather/BDSM play cabin available for use.

Northern Exposure 2011