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About boyiain

A switch from the Toronto area, owned by and under the firm guidance of Master Chuck from Sudbury.

Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy

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Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011This past weekend, Master Chuck and I ran for Eastern Canada LeatherSIR and Eastern Canada Leatherboy.

What an amazing weekend.

I was first introduced to the Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy weekend 5 years ago when I was first involved with Toronto boys of Leather.  The club was asked to provide Judges boys for the contest, then held at the Eagle.  That was the year that Sir Franco and boy Jason won.

I have watched four couples compete at the local level, helped one couple proceed to the international level, and watched as my predecessor, the first coming of Ian, win the International Leatherboy title in San Francisco in July 2010.

I have loved being Judges boy for Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy for the past four years, and it was about time that I got my boy-ass on stage.

My journey to run for Eastern Canada Leatherboy took three years and it was three years well worth the wait, the work, the thinking and preparation.  I’ve gone from questioning, “What is the value of the various titleholder systems” and thinking in negative terms to seeing the positive.  I have gone from thinking, “I can’t” to seeing how “I can”.

The Pet Shop Boys track, “I wouldn’t normally do this kind of thing” from their album “Very” comes to mind.  I’ve heard that from many Sirs over the years and I’ve said it myself as a boy.

I have grown so much in the past three years in ways that I never thought were possible.  While I was quite comfortable with my sexuality, I was definitely not comfortable in who I am, especially around being an introvert, being in the limelight and definitely playing in public let alone being a player in my fifteen minutes of fame.

As I think about the sheer number of people that have inspired me, admittedly it’s hard to narrow the list down. Master Chuck’s family, the producers of ECLSLb – Brandon and Dan, my predecessors, the various MLT titleholders, friends and extended family from my travels.  You have all inspired me.

I am blessed to have an amazing family and community behind me and many inspirations.  You are much appreciated.

If you are considering running in any local title within the ILSb family, please do feel free to contact me.  I would be more than happy to share my experiences with you.

As I said in my speech – I look forward to making all of Y/you proud as I continue to help build O/our players community as Your Eastern Canada Leatherboy.  I am very humbled.

ECLb Speech – Feb 19th, 2011

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Honoured judges… Ladies and gentlemen… SIRS, fellow boys and bootblacks…

This year marks 30 years since the bathhouse raids in Toronto and since that time, Toronto has become a much more open-minded and sexually diverse city. The domino effects are quite something – look at us here today at Goodhandy’s – this would not be happening today if it were not for what happened 30 years ago.

I went to my first bath house in 1996, and since then I have spent spent a lot of time at The Barracks, The Cellar and even at bars like The Toolbox where I learned to be comfortable with my sexuality, learning to fist, fuck, get fucked and suck cock and most importantly about Leather… *GRIN* damn I’ve had a good time at bath houses over the years.

Those early experiences set the stage for who I am today as a Leatherboy, as a pig, a service submissive and a player. It opened the door to boot play, cock and ball torture, chastity, bondage, rubber, tit torture, breath control, piss, and spit – to name a few of the kinks I’m into.

For four years I have been honoured to be your judges boy and enough people have said it’s about time I got my boy-ass on stage to run for Eastern Canada Leatherboy.

I am Master C’s boy iain, I’m originally from St. John’s Newfoundland, I have lived for 32 years here in Toronto, and i know I will make not only my Sir proud, but also You proud as I continue to help build Our players community as Your Eastern Canada Leatherboy.

Marking history one pin at a time

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Iain's pin vest

My pin vest

This is my pin vest.   It marks my personal history within the Leather community and also some times prior.  I put this vest together this past summer.

The oldest pin is the Ours Montréal pin which I picked up around 1997.  The newest pin is the Spearhead friendship pin.

The large patch represents my Associate Membership with the Rochester Rams.

The Mama’s pin was pinned on me by Mama during Mr. Leatherman Toronto 2009.  I was greatly humbled – and funny given we were trying to arrange a pinning for my then Master (now my Sir) into Mama’s family in recognition of all of His years of service in promoting HIV/AIDS awareness, safe sex practices, fundraising, volunteer work and His involvement in the greater Leather Community in Northern Ontario.  I am very proud of this pin on a number of levels.

There are three family pins on my vest – Master’s which is the Maple Leaf which had a mosquito trap attached to it;  The Leather Vajra Family pin next to Master Chuck’s and the black and blue pin represents a link to a Master in Dallas to whom I have much respect, and I believe he was the first person I was loaned out to for the weekend.

The South Carolina state flag adorns my Leather vest.  This pin represents hard work and personal growth.  In my professional career I have spent a significant amount of time in South Carolina.  When I switched from being a software developer to working in Professional Services, my first project was in South Carolina and I grew by leaps and bounds during that time period.  It’s also part of my first year as a Leatherboy.  It was a tough time period in my life. I survived it and it made me stronger.

The rest of the pins represent events, club relationships, bars and cities that have contributed to shaping me as I am.

I spent a lot of time at The Barracks.  Those who would have gone may have remembered a pin vest that was framed in the lobby.  I don’t know who it belonged to but it always inspired me.  I always wanted to put my pins on a vest – and now I have my own canvas to display my history.

Congratulations to my friend FL_AlphaGeek on FetLife, a man I have known for 21 years, on receiving his first leather vest tonight – his first canvas for his own history.

A note from Mr. Spearhead 2011

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“A donation of TWO COMPLIMENTARY BEARS OF JUSTICE RUN PASSES (TEXAS BEAR ROUND-UP, March 17-20) has come my way, with determinant proceeds to Toronto People With AIDS Foundation Food Programs. I am making this donation available as a best-offer amount, starting at $200, for TWO passes. 100% proceeds from this purchase will go to Toronto People With AIDS Foundation Food Programs. The best offer will be determined as of Friday, February 11, 11:59pm. Thank you to my brother leather bear, Kevin Reichenstein, for making this possible.

Please contact me with any bids at: mrspearheadtoronto2011@rogers.com

Please feel free to forward this to anyone who might be interested in attending this amazing event and have them contact me directly!

30 Years since the Bathhouse Raids in Toronto

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Tomorrow marks the 30th anniversary of the bath house raids and Xtra! has posted a link to a video called “Track Two” that covers the history of the bathhouse raids.

http://www.xtra.ca/public/National/The_1981_Toronto_Bathhouse_Riots-9730.aspx

The raids in Toronto is what really sparked the pride movement in Toronto.  Toronto’s gay community rallied and called the police and politicians to task.  We had enough of the bullshit.

I wasn’t there, being a 6 years old back then, but I was living in North York at the time.  With many thanks to the men and women who stood up for gay rights back then, and paved the way for the acceptance we have today, I can live as an out gay man with my partner without fear of repercussion.

Bathhouses have always been an important part of my gay upbringing.  I’ve spent MANY hours in baths around the world including Canada, the United States, the United Kingdom and New Zealand.  I enjoy them, I find them relaxing, fun, and beyond the sex I often get a great workout in as well (thanks Steamworks!).

They have opened my eyes to kink, it’s where I learned to fuck and get fucked, suck and get sucked – I’ve been shown the ropes and I’ve shown the ropes to a number of men I’ve met in bathhouses – possibly sharing someone’s first gay sexual experience.

Unfortunately, in Toronto, bath houses have been closing down over the past 7 years with the loss of The Barracks (loved this place), Club Toronto (the pool on Sunday was fun!), and St. Marc’s Spa (rumored to be re-opening sometime).  That said, there have been a number of sex clubs open up along with the remaining bathhouses in Toronto –  The Cellar, Steamworks, Spa Excess and Central Spa.

I hope we never lose these establishments, but I fear it is inevitable that we will.

Interviews

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I was interviewed recently for “The Dark Side” – a series of podcasts hosted by Dark Angel and KnotNice.  I met Dark Angel at the Milton Munch, and had briefly met him at various pansexual BDSM events when I was active within that part of the community several years ago.

  • Episode 36 – The Gay Leather Community – Dark Angel and KnotNice ask me questions about how I found the Gay Leather Community as well differences that you will find between the pansexual and gay communities.  We also talk about various events including MLT and ECLSLb; and HIV/AIDS impact on Leather in the gay community.
  • Episode 37 – A Kinky Leather Family – Dark Angel and KnotNice asked me about Master C’s Leather Family, which I have been part of for almost 7 years, plus things to think about if you are or are considering building a Leather Family.

It was tough doing the first podcast on Gay Leather because there are so many directions we could go in.  How did we get to this point?  Why did we push boundaries as Leathermen?  History, etc… There are so many things we could talk about, and we could talk for hours.  I hope I did the community proud in such a limited amount of time.

There is a wealth of information that we’ve provided here and I hope that you find it useful.

Thank Yous to Master Chuck for allowing me to speak publicly, and to Dark Angel and KnotNice for interviewing me.

I was also previously interviewed by Sir Dart for Dart’s Domain.  Check it out too.

“How do I do straight Leather?”

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Yesterday evening, Master Scott, slave-pup Kalen and I made our way out to Milton to attend a munch put on by a friend of mine.  This munch has been very successful – surprising for a town of what was 36,000 through most of the 80s and 90s, which is now closer to 100,000.  It shouldn’t surprise me but it is also, in many respects, the perfect place for a munch because you get people from Toronto (such as me), Hamilton, Halton Region and even as far as London, ON attending.  Quite the cross roads.

This friend of mine is mostly straight, and probably heteroflexible, if we were to put him into a box of labels.  He’s also grown up in Leather, mostly in the gay community in that Scott and I have been a significant part of his journey.

We got talking about his journey of self discovery, learning to accept himself as a Kinkster and Leatherman, how he is integrating himself within the pansexual community, and creating a space for others.

And you know, hats off to him for creating that space and for giving himself the space to figure himself out.  He now knows what it’s like to come out of the closet.  He might not be gay, but he is going through the same motions that any of us do who come to terms with not being conventional, not fitting a norm; and all the trials, tribulations and reward that come with it.

He said that one of the questions he asked himself at one point was, “How do I do straight Leather?  All of my examples have been from the gay Leather community.”

I smiled at this because we all go through trying to figure out our identities and how we fit into this wide-ranging community.

I know I’ve often wondered, “How do I fit into gay Leather community?”, “What is gay Leather?”, “What if I’m not a masochist?  Does that make me any less of a Leatherman and less value as a submissive?”, “What if I’m not a sadist?  Does that make me any less of a Leatherman?”

As my friend said, the Gay Leather community is the leader and the Pansexual Leather community is like the wild west – and that’s not a bad thing.  It’s like a parallel universe.

And he’s right.  On my fridge I have two magnets from an event in Winnipeg given to me by my favorite sub in Winnipeg, mutt.  One is of two women mostly naked in a fun provocative position; and the other is of mutt in a dog house looking like a very hot dog that he is.

The imagery that appeals to me is the pic of mutt.  The women, *shrugs* I’m so not into feminine things so it appeals less.

At one level, by our very nature, pan is going to be different from gay Leather.  Gay male Leather is about the masculinity of man on man action whether it’s about the sadomasochism, pig sex, gear or service aspects of what we do.

Pan adds a feminine dimension that will never be a part of the gay Leather scene.

I would love to add anecdotes about the Leather Dyke/Women/Lesbian community but I’ve had very limited exposure to that part of our greater community.  What I can say is, holy shit they play rough and hard. *GRIN* I can say that it’s different – similar, yet different in it’s own special way.

BUT, ultimately the tools and how we use them are the same, are they not?

No matter what part of the community you’re in – you have to follow your heart and be true to yourself.

I am one for both combined spaces and separate spaces.  I like the fact that there are men-only play spaces, women-only play spaces, and places where we can get together and have a ball.

And I also know that the pan community is HUNGRY for seeing guy on guy action.  They want to know how guys play, they want to learn from us guys.  In return, I think they have some things to share with us.

After all, the only person to break a paddle on my ass, to date, was a woman.  The standing ovation and clapping from the Fet Photo party was quite something. *GRIN*

The Surprise of Body and Rough Boot Play

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I have to admit, I’m not much of a masochist and probably less of a sadist.  Take for instance, gut punching.  I’ve had it done to me – and I have, in the past, gone down a rather negative headspace; and I’ve done it to other people – and gotten caught up in the headspace of, “OMG I’m going to hurt this person and I don’t know my own strength.”

Even when playing Rugby, despite my nickname of, “Tampax” during my year in the UK, apparently because I could stop any bleeding cunt.  I hated tackling because I thought it would hurt – LOL  For that you can call me a wimp.

Okay, so that is what I thought.

Imagine my surprise when receiving the first blow to the side from a boot from a 6ft3, redhaired redneck from Oklahoma.  Holy fuck, it felt surprising, it felt scary, it felt good and I want more!  And more I got after being an ottoman, being kicked in the side, the love handles stood on, my back pounded, a boot kicking my nuts, and 270lbs standing on me with a pair of Yak Tracks on.

Watching this man kicking someone else’s ass with those shit kickers, stomping, running the tread down someone’s chest and back… it was heavy and it was sensual.  I was lapping up the vibe, drooling from the scene, and was hard.  If I were a leaker, my 501s would have been drenched.

I knew what I was getting into – I knew I could trust the man as others I am close to have trusted themselves with him – word of mouth and the opinions of those I trust in my community is important to me; and after being a demo bottom for him the previous day in a flogging workshop, I had a good sense of his energy – which is AMAZING!

I didn’t know what I was getting into – admittedly, and in some respects it was a good thing because had I known I would probably be putting up all kinds of blocks and admittedly, I would not have spent five hours after flying with such an endorphin rush.

So maybe I’m not a wimp after all, but this sure as hell was edge play for me and I loved every minute of it.  Watching this man work other people over too, was amazing.  This brought body play and even boot play to a whole different level for me.

This is not something I would engage just anyone with.  For me there has to be that connection that I talked about in a previous entry.

I learned something new about myself through this experience, and I appreciate that opportunity.

Boots

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Doc Martens, Nick's Harness Boots

Doc Martens, Nick's Harness Boots

In May of this past year, I bought my first pair of Wescos in San Francisco – Wesco Bosses 12in high, size 11D.  They are the most comfortable boots I have ever worn!

These boots mean a lot to me.  I had asked Sir, a year or so ago, if I could specifically purchase a new pair of boots for play, which was granted.  There was something about that trip to San Francisco – which is a city that is very close to my heart, that seemed right for investing in a pair of the right boots.  And the right boots I found.

As a kid, I loved my parade boots as an air and army cadet.  I loved making those boots shine, and the smell of Kiwi.

As an adult I’ve worn boots consistently since my first trip to Galway, Ireland; where I purchased two pairs of Doc Martens – black and brown. I’ve worn Doc shoes since the early 1990s in high school and it was about time I graduated to a pair of boots.  They are very comfortable, although they’re just not made the same way and the quality has decreased over time.  Regardless, I will always own pairs of Doc Martens – shoes and boots.

Given his work, Sir also wears construction boots which also turn my crank.  And if I see a stocky, Bearish, blue collar looking man wearing construction boots, you can guarantee that I’ll be drooling.  I bought my first pair a few years ago, and while I don’t wear them often, I do smile at the amount of play and hard work those boots have seen.

I bought my first pair of harness boots from Nick’s a few years ago – size 12, featured in the picture above.  I’ve tried to keep these boots polished over time and admittedly they are long overdue for some TLC.

I like boot play.  The first pair of boots I ever set my tongue on was a lovely pair of well worn and loved engineers that Sir owns.  I love licking a pair of boots, being down on my knees or lying, holding on to the boot, licking up the dirt, grime, cum, piss and maybe even polish off a pair.

There’s also the scent of a pair of boots having been worn, and taking them off after a full day of hard work and play. *GRIN*  Socks and feet have been known to cause me to drop into subspace – but that’s a whole different blog entry.

There’s also nothing like being kicked, stomped on and stood on by a pair of hot boots and the command of the person wearing those boots.

Face it, they’re a versatile tool in your Leather toy bag.

On the flip side, I’ve enjoyed topping in my boots too – a boot pig boy is always a good thing in my books.

Face it, boots turn my crank.

I’d to acknowledge those who have inspired me in boots in Toronto, Denver, Detroit and San Francisco – Master C, Daddy David, Master Jack, Black, slave Eric, boy matt (North American Bootblack!!) and boy marc, cub, Alex, the current Bootblack Toronto 2011 slave-boy Jake, and  the many people I’ve not mentioned here – you are appreciated!