Master Chuck was interviewed on The Dark Side about Leather Family dynamics and poly dynamics. Check it out.
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Leatherati.com Interview
Eastern Canada LeatherSIR 2011 Master Chuck & Eastern Canada Leatherboy 2011 boy iain
J.J. Deogracias, one of my favorite Leathermen here in Toronto, interviewed Master Chuck and I for Leatherati.com:
Part 1: Canadians do it better in a sleeping bag.
Part 2: Explaining the fantasy… it’s the simplest things you can use
Part 3: …going to Disneyworld…
Thank you JJ and Leatherati! Definitely one of many highlights from this weekend.
Photo courtesy of irrationalmachine
Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy
This past weekend, Master Chuck and I ran for Eastern Canada LeatherSIR and Eastern Canada Leatherboy.
What an amazing weekend.
I was first introduced to the Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy weekend 5 years ago when I was first involved with Toronto boys of Leather. The club was asked to provide Judges boys for the contest, then held at the Eagle. That was the year that Sir Franco and boy Jason won.
I have watched four couples compete at the local level, helped one couple proceed to the international level, and watched as my predecessor, the first coming of Ian, win the International Leatherboy title in San Francisco in July 2010.
I have loved being Judges boy for Eastern Canada LeatherSIR/Leatherboy for the past four years, and it was about time that I got my boy-ass on stage.
My journey to run for Eastern Canada Leatherboy took three years and it was three years well worth the wait, the work, the thinking and preparation. I’ve gone from questioning, “What is the value of the various titleholder systems” and thinking in negative terms to seeing the positive. I have gone from thinking, “I can’t” to seeing how “I can”.
The Pet Shop Boys track, “I wouldn’t normally do this kind of thing” from their album “Very” comes to mind. I’ve heard that from many Sirs over the years and I’ve said it myself as a boy.
I have grown so much in the past three years in ways that I never thought were possible. While I was quite comfortable with my sexuality, I was definitely not comfortable in who I am, especially around being an introvert, being in the limelight and definitely playing in public let alone being a player in my fifteen minutes of fame.
As I think about the sheer number of people that have inspired me, admittedly it’s hard to narrow the list down. Master Chuck’s family, the producers of ECLSLb – Brandon and Dan, my predecessors, the various MLT titleholders, friends and extended family from my travels. You have all inspired me.
I am blessed to have an amazing family and community behind me and many inspirations. You are much appreciated.
If you are considering running in any local title within the ILSb family, please do feel free to contact me. I would be more than happy to share my experiences with you.
As I said in my speech – I look forward to making all of Y/you proud as I continue to help build O/our players community as Your Eastern Canada Leatherboy. I am very humbled.
Interviews
I was interviewed recently for “The Dark Side” – a series of podcasts hosted by Dark Angel and KnotNice. I met Dark Angel at the Milton Munch, and had briefly met him at various pansexual BDSM events when I was active within that part of the community several years ago.
- Episode 36 – The Gay Leather Community – Dark Angel and KnotNice ask me questions about how I found the Gay Leather Community as well differences that you will find between the pansexual and gay communities. We also talk about various events including MLT and ECLSLb; and HIV/AIDS impact on Leather in the gay community.
- Episode 37 – A Kinky Leather Family – Dark Angel and KnotNice asked me about Master C’s Leather Family, which I have been part of for almost 7 years, plus things to think about if you are or are considering building a Leather Family.
It was tough doing the first podcast on Gay Leather because there are so many directions we could go in. How did we get to this point? Why did we push boundaries as Leathermen? History, etc… There are so many things we could talk about, and we could talk for hours. I hope I did the community proud in such a limited amount of time.
There is a wealth of information that we’ve provided here and I hope that you find it useful.
Thank Yous to Master Chuck for allowing me to speak publicly, and to Dark Angel and KnotNice for interviewing me.
I was also previously interviewed by Sir Dart for Dart’s Domain. Check it out too.
On being recollared
Today, November 28, 2010; I had the honour of being released as Master C’s slave and being accepted and recollared as His boy.
I made the request a month ago after the So You Want to be Kinky seminars, after having a bit of a realization – one that had been coming for a while but I had to face the truth.
In short, being someone’s slave is bloody hard work – whether you’re local or long distance. Very hard work. Hey, even being someone’s boy is just as hard work.
But for me, being someone’s slave and personal property was something I needed to go through, to have that experience to really discover my true self and nature.
While I have (and do) identify as a switch and quite proudly so, maybe too proudly; I am primarily more submissive – at this time.
Truth be known, I’ve been having a harder time getting into that deeper headspace that, for my definition of a slave, should have and it was clear that I just couldn’t keep that up.
I’ve also been letting my slave-space repress me a keep me down. To be clear, it wasn’t Master keeping me down – it was me. And it was at my request that we change our dynamic.
So what is the difference, for me, between slave and boy?
Well there is the fact that a boy has more leeway. But it goes deeper than that. A slave for me is able to set aside a good portion of that control and drop into that deep submissive space. Words really don’t describe it well, and I promise to touch on this more in the future.
I am fortunate, very fortunate to have found a dominant who has been able to mold me into the man that I want to be, with a few twists of his own and someone with who, I was able to explore who I am.
I was sad yesterday at the close of this part of my time with Master, but the release and subsequent recollaring feels right and lets me feel free. I am very thankful for the experience.
Thank you to Sir Scott, Western Canada Leather Sir 2011 and former Mr. Edmonton Leather 2003 for allowing Master C to share one of His traditions with people in attendance during “The Twoo Leather” seminar.