So there’s been a lot of discussion among some of my friends and online about why people get in to Leather. Some have said, to cut to the chase, essentially because it makes their cock hard, cunt wet, etc…

And I can buy that.

Why did I jump at the opportunity to play with the man who became my Sir and Master? Play with a damn hot man I had fantasized over for 7 years, prior to being collared.

I acknowledge that I have my primal needs – to be used and to cum.

But – I do not believe that is the overriding reason, at least for me. There was a lot more to be offered than just getting my ass fucked, my back marked, and licking boots.

I knew that I was getting into a deeper relationship and one that I will always cherish. I knew that I would grow as a man, and that it would be hard work.

So I would say that, for me, there was a balance between play, personal growth, and human connection.

When I first met Sir, I saw what his first cub and he had from a very brief moment in time at The Toolbox and I said to myself, “I’d really like something like that.”

I craved that alpha-male connection that had been missing in my life and I got more than I bargained for and who knew that what I’ve shared with.

Now that said, when I’ve had cubs or boys in my life – four to date; they know and learn that connection is vital – my interest and their interest would have waned if it wasn’t there.

I’ve had some intense play in those relationships but it’s because the connection that was formed between sub and dom.

When I was in SF in July, I cruised online and had a chance to play with a very hot boot pig Daddy – we had tried to hook up in May but it did not work out.  Yes, I was looking for play as I’m not one for play parties, and I do much better in one on one situations.

What turned out is a budding relationship. Yes I wanted to be at His knees, licking his boots, licking his cod piece and make Him blow His load like anything. But if we didn’t connect during our play, then our play would have been only okay, and I would not have been all that satisfied and would have been craving more from another source.

Connection and balance.